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The Unintentional Guide to ENM Disaster: 101 Mistakes to Avoid
You decided to open your relationship. Congrats!
But Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) is a commitment to radical, proactive ethics; that means facing the 25 ways people accidentally blow up their relationships
Don't let your insecurities turn you into the villain.
Click to read the full 25 Critical Mistakes in ENM and get the fixes that will save your relationships.
Kristen Vallely
Jan 138 min read


The Polyamory Lexicon: A Beginner’s Guide to Relationship Shapes, Dynamics, and Essential Vocabulary
New to ethical non-monogamy? Use this essential lexicon to navigate the world of polyamory, defining everything from structural dynamics (Vee, Hierarchy) to emotional terms (Compersion, NRE) and relationship philosophies (RA, Solo Poly). Relationships are infinitely customizable.
Kristen Vallely
Nov 21, 20255 min read


Preparing, Communicating, and Following Up with Your Metamour
Beyond meeting a metamour, preparation, mindful communication, and thoughtful follow-up are essential. Explore practical LMFT-guided strategies for boundaries, pacing, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.
Kristen Vallely
Nov 6, 20252 min read


Metamour Practice: Your Guide to Conscious Connection
Moving past drama with practical metamour advice. Get clear on conscious vs toxic metamours.
Kristen Vallely
Oct 28, 20253 min read


Meeting Your Metamour: Finding What Works for You
Meeting a metamour can be exciting and challenging. Explore how to navigate hinge dynamics, self-regulation, connection levels, and practical tips to build safe and healthy metamour relationships.
Kristen Vallely
Oct 28, 20255 min read


The Metamour Connection: Leading with Intention and Self Respect
Not every metamour relationship needs to be close. Learn the different polycule styles (KTP, Parallel, Meta Averse) and the core rights you have to set intentional, healthy boundaries.
Kristen Vallely
Sep 27, 20252 min read
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