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Alternative Relationships, Polyamory & Ethnical Non-Monogamy

Welcome to a nonjudgmental space for exploration & growth.

Navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, and alternative relationship structures requires deep self-awareness, communication, and intentional boundaries.

Whether you're just beginning to explore or have years of experience, relationships outside the mainstream come with unique joys and challenges.

Common Themes We Explore in Therapy:



Jealousy & Emotional Regulation
Understanding the roots of jealousy, working through insecurity, and transforming it into deeper connection and self-growth.

Attachment Dynamics in ENM
Identifying your attachment style and how it interacts with multiple relationships. Learning to self-soothe, co-regulate, and build secure bonds across different partnerships.

Effective Communication & Conflict Resolution
Navigating difficult conversations around boundaries, needs, and desires without falling into power struggles.

Boundaries & Agreements
Clarifying agreements vs. rules, setting healthy boundaries that honor autonomy, and adapting them as relationships evolve.Deconstructing Relationship Norms – Unpacking internalized monogamy, jealousy scripts, and cultural stigma that can create unnecessary pressure or guilt.

Managing Transitions & New Relationship Energy (NRE)  
Understanding how NRE, de-escalation, and shifting dynamics impact emotional connection and stability.

Solo Poly, Relationship Anarchy, & Hierarchical Structures
Exploring what relationship structure feels most aligned for you and ensuring it’s intentional, not reactive.

Sexuality & Intimacy in ENM
Navigating desire discrepancies, safe sex practices, pleasure, and sexual empowerment across multiple relationship's

Family, Community, and Coming Out
Discussing ways to integrate polyamory into family life, parenting, or navigating social stigma.

Many people struggle to find therapists who truly understand ENM beyond theory. With specialized training in ENM, polyamory, and sex-informed therapy, I offer more than just a neutral space—I provide expert guidance tailored to your specific relationship dynamics.

Kristen Vallely, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Trained in: KAP, EMDR, TF-CBT DBT, ENM, Sex Informed therapy and BDSM/Kinks

 

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