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Beyond the Core Partner: Why Relationship Diversity is Key to Mental Health
We often place the risky burden of meeting all our needs on one person. Discover why treating your relationships like a diverse investment portfolio is the key to emotional security and managing disappointment.
Kristen Vallely
Jan 164 min read


Plato's Cave & Mental Health: Healing From Family Dysfunction When They Stay Behind
When you choose to heal from generational patterns, you inevitably discover that the growth you crave may not resonate with the people you love. Using the allegory of Plato's Cave, we explore the agonizing truth that maintaining your health requires accepting the limited capacity and intrinsic choices of family members—even if they choose to remain in the shadows. We discuss the difference between rescue and inspiration, and why leaving the Cave is a necessary decision to try
Kristen Vallely
Jan 65 min read


Beyond Listening: The Hidden Work of Interpersonal Processing in Therapy
Why does therapy work? It’s not just talking. The real, hidden work involves using the therapeutic relationship as a microcosm to understand your relational blueprint, challenge old schemas, and expand your capacity for secure connection. Dive into the meta level of change.
Kristen Vallely
Jan 13 min read


The Power of Screen-Free Mealtimes: Hunger for Connection
We often miss our child's emotional bids—the 'knock at the door'—when our phones are out. Why are screen-free mealtimes are vital for building resilience, language skills, and deep family connection? Learn more.
Kristen Vallely
Nov 24, 20254 min read


The Polyamory Lexicon: A Beginner’s Guide to Relationship Shapes, Dynamics, and Essential Vocabulary
New to ethical non-monogamy? Use this essential lexicon to navigate the world of polyamory, defining everything from structural dynamics (Vee, Hierarchy) to emotional terms (Compersion, NRE) and relationship philosophies (RA, Solo Poly). Relationships are infinitely customizable.
Kristen Vallely
Nov 21, 20255 min read


The Conscious Key: Using Intention to Unlock Unconditional Love & Healthy Reciprocity
Is your relationship running on autopilot? Learn how conscious intention is the single most powerful tool to transform love from a reactive habit into an unconditional, deeply connected practice. Discover the essential daily intentions needed for true self-advocacy, healthy boundaries, and lasting peace.
Kristen Vallely
Nov 13, 20253 min read


The Metamour Connection: Leading with Intention and Self Respect
Not every metamour relationship needs to be close. Learn the different polycule styles (KTP, Parallel, Meta Averse) and the core rights you have to set intentional, healthy boundaries.
Kristen Vallely
Sep 27, 20252 min read
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